To understand how you boost your confidence, you need to understand how you commonly deplete your confidence, probably unknowingly. That happens when you give your power away. You give your power away in moments in time.
Here are the 14 ways I see my clients give up their power:
- Saying ‘I can’t’ when you mean ‘I won’t’
- Letting other’s approval be more important than your own
- Always putting other people first
- Asking permission inappropriately when you have the right to assert yourself
- Credentialing instead of being confident with your capabilities
- Not being clear about what you want
- Apologizing to avoid conflict
- Dealing in generalities
- Demanding guarantees
- Asking a question when you want to make a statement – be courageous
- Being unwilling to say “No”
- Making decisions based on your circumstances instead of choosing based on your stand and commitment
- Seeking feedback from ‘everyone’ around you, without being clear on where you stand and having your own opinion
- Making decisions based on your circumstances instead of choosing based on your stand and commitment
Over the next two weeks, take notes as to where you do some or all of the above.
Ready to start owning your power? In my free resource, I’ll give you exercises to practice to turn this around, and take back your power!
